The Mystic Spouse - Unpredictable, Tough and Happy

So your wife is a better manager than you, she has kept you guessing all these years, and got work done too.

[Self serving comment deleted. The article is a piece of SATIRE]

If she continues to be a mystery to you the chemistry is bound to be good;)

Yes.Deepti you bet. I feel my wife is a 'matured wine'and not an old wine.

Violent behaviour of women is a satire and similar behaviour by men is domestic violence.

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but erupts like a volcano when least expected.
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Will the editor can this a satire, had the author of this post been a woman writing about her husband. Every one must have recommended her to go to police.

Its censorship again out here.

Sumanth, seems you are commenting on the wrong post

Deepti,

A few year ago, even the very term "harassed husbands" was a satire and people used to joke about it.

The author has innocently spoken his mind. You consider it as a joke.

Every married man knows what volcanic eruptions are and they are forced to live with it, adjust with it and finally joke about it. Then, we call it satire.

The stereotyping is created that men are emotionally strong and hence it does not hurt them. So, they should only joke about it.

We are talking about equality here. The problem is, similar post by a woman will never be categorised as a satire, but there will be 10 people, who will jump in to ill-advise her.

Sumanth, seems to be damn upset. The best remedy is to laugh it out.

Once you start enjoying the funny side of it, you will never have to regret.

That's what I am doing here.

suresh, sumanth doesn't laugh. he's a humorless dude who sees girl monsters under every bed. it's pathological

Suresh,
that was sweet, most of all that you are obviously very fond of your very interesting wife.

Amusingly, some guys in your audience seem to think when you said "her reaction is violent", you mean she starts beating you up!! I presume you meant that she starts to rant and rave a little - do reassure these concerned ones that you are unharmed and do not need any rescuing.

That was sweet of you annamma.You got it right. As to rescuing, I am confident my humor would do, as it has been all these years.

For some people 'ignorance need not be bliss.'

Suresh,

Yes. I am upset. Not because of my life, but because of constant anti-male hatred propagated by the very feminists, whose attention you are enjoying now. I am also upset because of biased anti-family laws are being passed through parliament undemocratically at regular intervals even without debate.

I am terribly upset that the false stories and false statistics are manufactured to show to the people in India that women are victims and they are burdens and this is resulting in female foeticide.

I am also upset that the current designs by anti-national feminists will lead to a future situation in India where 1 in 4 girls will have STD and there will be a 4 times increase in crime due to creation of a fatherless society.

I am also upset that the males of previous generation oppressed women and now they want the current generation to pay the price for the sins of their forefathers.

I know you have spoken your mind. The world has changed, and so even angry rants and nagging by wife is domestic violence.

And you are the type along with your FF who applauded Amit when he killed his wife in cold blood and called him a hero. You were the one who called her names and besmirched her character till her family came and gave their side of the story.

You and your kind are no less in your blind hatred against women. We all know what you and your organization are all about and the kind of people in it.

You have shown your colours on Desicritcs more time than I care to remember and as usual you are not fooling anyone on this comment board.

And we don't need statistics..

In Haryana there is a saying - the price of a buffalo and a woman is the same. They buy women from Kerala - marry them, treat them like whores and unpaid servants and they even share the women!! It is a known fact Mr Sumanth but something you will never talk about!

In Darjeeling the prime trade is in women. They are abducted and sold not only within India but also in Saudi Arabia.

Amongst South Indians the number of men is more than women and they all ask for land and cars. Its a standard demand and how did I forget the gold chains for all relatives. Its no lie we hear it all the time but you will negate it such are your lies.

I can go on but in your paranoid world men are angles that can kill, rape and pillage but it is always the woman's fault- she liked it, she wanted it , she deserved it. Thats your mantra and we all know it!!

Go spew your spiel to some SIFF member who took dowry and now is on the short end and will believe any of your crap even though he was the one who beat his wife up.

You had a bad marriage, your equation was bad doesnt mean every one suffers teh same fate. I see jealousy of a fox without a cut tail here on your end as always.

ignore! ignore!

do not feed the nutters!

SS:

""ignore! ignore!

do not feed the nutters!""

or feed them nuts?

I am a squirrel, I do not share my nuts! :)

good one SS!!

They buy women from Kerala - marry them, treat them like whores and unpaid servants and they even share the women!! /i>

Ha ha...As if that is something unique to India.
They do it all the time in the feminist ruled west too...


where gold diggers sleep with half a dozen men before settling for their rich, tall and handsome, though the later happens in india too in copious quantities.

where a girl at 25 has tried out at least half a dozen boys and claims herself to be symbol of sexually liberated female when questioned.


Yeah I can go on and on, to challange myths and propaganda.

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Typical FF- a girl of 25 is questioned for sleeping around but not the men who sleep with her.

West? its the poor women of rural India who get exploited who know nothing of feminism...so cut your bull shit!!

The only myths that exist are in your mind FF and we are well acquainted with your heinous views regarding domestic violence and murder.

I try Smallsquirrel and Common sense but nuts require nut crackers!!

Ha Ha...I knew that

a girl of 25 is questioned for sleeping around but not the men who sleep with her.

And that is because the man does not go about charging women for having slept with him. Instead in so many cases he is singled out to pay directly or indirectly for their mutual act.

its the poor women of rural India who get exploited who know nothing of feminism

Never mind you will never get the satire.

A Clue: You camouflaged 'a rural woman marrying a man in order to secure a better life' as a woman being treated as whores and I exposed it by proving such women elsewhere as gold diggers. It is called "Old Wine in a New Bottle".

Really?

A woman who wants to be happily married, bear children, love her husband and manage his home suffers a fate worse than death is called a gold digger by a man who comes as FF and does not have the balls to use his own name just as he called Amit the cold killer a hero and believes rape is in the mind and wives deserve to be slapped.

Oh yes, the bottle remains very much the same. Who are you trying to convince here?

Laugh all you want FF, here no one takes you seriously and yet you return to blather your twisted lies and psychotic excuses for the crimes committed against women.

Elsewhere? who is talking about other women here? You and SIFF talk about hanging all men by the crimes of a few and then you try to use the same reasoning to try to remit the crime committed by 'supposed' western women.

No man talks about the woman he sleeps with? Womens' reputations are sullied by men. They sleep with a woman get up in the morning and tell their buddies she is easy. Indian men are not like the French who keep their affairs private - they go round telling who ever is willing to listen.

A 'easy' woman always has suitors and they are no better than the woman. And its a goose and gander thing. A man sleeps around he is praised by his male friends and a woman does it she is an easy lay- thats your mentality and typical Indian man's mentality or rather the SIFF mentality.

If your SIFF crowd wants to get over this patriarchial crap that they keep touting about so tell me what standards do you hold men by?

How are they supposed to treat their wives?
How are they supposed to treat the wives parents?
Whether the wife's parents get as much right as the man's parents?
Will the man be willing to adopt his wife's surname?
Will the man be willing to be a househusband and let the wife be the breadwinner and wear the pants at home?

You people as usual expect the women to change but on your front suffer from the same putrid mentality. Like I said the game is up here we know what you and your 'wife murderer loving' SIFF crowd is all about.

When I wrote this piece, I had only my spouse in mind and now reading all the comments and the raging temper,I feel my comments 'erupts when least expected'is fully justified.

I also feel justified in using a common gender 'spouse', since many of them here have become nuts, on becoming a 'spouse'.

Suresh,

The men of your generation have done(are doing) terrible injustice to the society. Firstly, they want the today's young men to pay for the sins of their fore-fathers by statements like,"women were oppressed for ages, and the current generation of men have to pay."

It is men of your generation that is populating the parliament and bureaucracy. They have passed laws, which has led to arrest of 95,000 women without trial in last 4 years alone under just one section of IPC. The men of your generation never cared about their children, did not relate to children emotionally and did not change children's diapers. Today, the men of your generation are responsible for denial of "shared parenting/child visitation" to millions of young men of this generation.

Most of the accusations by feminist commentators above apply to men of previous generations.

The men of your generation helped a biased domestic violence legislation get passed in parliament by claiming that men are emotionally, physically, economically violent to their wives.

When you wrote this article, you did not know that a dangerous gender war has started in India and given the present attitude of older men and feminists, this war will continue with serious repercussions with revenge and counter revenge games, while children pay the price.

Please note, there is no room for men to laugh out today as women tend to be more and more violent emotionally and legally. This in turn has a serious impact on young women as well. Men are pushed to the wall.

There has to be gender equality in the country so far as behaviour, law and social expectations are concerned. If it does not happen, then there will be not only a gender war, but also a war between generations.

One feminist above is questioning thousand things about equality ignoring that 70% of all deaths in accidents, suicides and murders are that of men who face this for the sake bread and butter for women and children in their families.

Emotional violence by men is considered a criminal act, where as similar violence by women is considered to be a part of married life package. How?

[write when you have stopped frothing]

Sumanth:

""One feminist above is questioning thousand things about equality ignoring that 70% of all deaths in accidents, suicides and murders are that of men who face this for the sake bread and butter for women and children in their families.""

???? Accidents and murders caused by feminism???

CS, 70% of male deaths are caused by families- I like the way Sumanth's falsies show;)

Suresh, this was a nice post, all relationships need bits of humor to survive. When siblings and friends fight why won't couples do the same? It is natural and has nothing whatsoever to do with gender wars

Yes, a lot of excess baggage has been thrown on your post thanks to the single point agendas of Sumanth and FF and me as usual trying to counter their perverse opinions.

But thankfully most people on Desicritics know about these people and don't take them seriously. For more information you can see Sumanths posts on Desicrictis, more like a crash course into his thinking and his mission in life to blame all the wretchedness of India on feminists.

Sumanth, I see my questions went unanswered which I am not surprised about - you people can never be the change but keep whining how you want others to change all for you!!

Anadiya

First of all I have no affilation to SIFF, but yeh I do consider myself sane and balanced.
Let me try answer Anadiya's questions without throwing in any impressive sounding words. I

will attempt to be as plain as I can.

How are they supposed to treat their wives?
1. As a friend and With equal accountability. She must earn respect by her deeds and not

just because she is a woman.No tantrums like crying and yelling should be permited ir

tolerated. If she wants to be treated as equal she needs to contribute equally.


2.How are they supposed to treat the wives parents?
They should be kept at distance. Treat them like your own parents but be intolerent to any

interference even if with well intentions. Remeber that adage " Too many cooks spoil the

broth" . Same holds true when too many people get involved in couples lives.



3.Whether the wife's parents get as much right as the man's parents?



4. Will the man be willing to adopt his wife's surname?

Sure Man should, provided he becomes equal owner to wife's parent's property. Wife, by

taking husbands surname is entitled to equal (maybe more) share in husband's and her in-laws

propert. isn't it?


5. Will the man be willing to be a househusband and let the wife be the breadwinner and wear

the pants at home?

Ofcourse man should be willing to be househusband, provided girl and her parents change

their attitude. I haven't come across any girl or her parents who want their son-in-law

jobless or without any assets and are willing. If there is maritial dispute men should be

assured to receive maintainance and alimony and possesion of his kids.
Why does women need to wear pants in house? We men prefer skirts instead. You know it is

easy and all that.. I hope u understand..

Lady instead of asking these stupid questions and blaming Men for all this, either fight

with god to have you changed to man or feel comfortable and celebrate your womenhood.

remember all these men discussing here didn't fall from sky. they have mothers who incidently are women.. Tell god to give man boobs, so we stay home and feed kids with milk. I wouldn't be surprised if females like you will tomorrow question on why Cows are milked and why not Oxens.

Come on you all, gimme a break. This is just a sataire and not a pro or anti feminist propaganda site. I my self express the male sentiments in this post but this is too far feteched.Let us not drag feminism and feminist hatred into this.

Anadiya

Let me try answer your questions without throwing in any impressive sounding words. I will attempt to be as plain as I can.

1. How are they supposed to treat their wives?

As a friend and with equal accountability. She must earn respect by her deeds and not just because she is a woman. No tantrums like crying and yelling should be permitted
and tolerated. If she wants to be treated as equal she needs to contribute equally may it
be financial or home chores.


2.How are they supposed to treat the wives parents?

They should be kept at distance. Treat them like your own parents but accept no
interference even if with well intentions. Remember that adage? "Too many cooks spoil the broth" . This especially holds true when too many people get involved in couples lives.


3. Whether the wife's parents get as much right as the man's parents?
What rights are we talking about? Man's parents go to jail if there is marital discord, do you want wife's parents to enjoy same benefits?


4. Will the man be willing to adopt his wife's surname?

Sure Man should, provided he becomes equal owner to wife's and her parent's property. Wife, by taking husbands surname is entitled to equal (maybe more) share in husband's and her in-laws property. Seems a great bargain, as some great philosopher once said " What is in the name". isn't it?


5. Will the man be willing to be a househusband and let the wife be the breadwinner and wear the pants at home?

Of-course man should be willing to be househusband, provided girl and her parents change their attitude. I never came across any girl or her parents who search for a jobless or no-asset groom. Try some matrimonial sites or check with marriage bureau.
Also later if there is marital dispute men should be assured to receive maintenance/alimony and custody of his kids, should he choose to be househusband.
Why does women need to wear pants in house? We men prefer skirts instead. You know it is easy, air conditioned and all that.
Lady instead of asking these stupid questions and blaming Men for all this, either fight
with god to have you changed to man or feel comfortable and celebrate your womenhood. Remember all these men discussing here didn't fall from skies. They have mother who incidentally is women.. Tell God to give man boobs, so we stay home and feed milk to kids. I wouldn't be surprised if females like you tomorrow question why poor Cows are milked and why not Oxen's. Remember God has made every species for a purpose and duty, no matter how hard you try Oxen will never produce milk, man can never get pregnant and nurse babies. Instead of feeling great and blessed for what you have, I see confused women like you in constant predicament and blame man for everything.

Anadiya

Let me try answer your questions without throwing in any impressive sounding words. I will attempt to be as plain as I can.

1. How are they supposed to treat their wives?

As a friend and with equal accountability. She must earn respect by her deeds and not just because she is a woman. No tantrums like crying and yelling should be permitted
and tolerated. If she wants to be treated as equal she needs to contribute equally may it
be financial or home chores.


2.How are they supposed to treat the wives parents?

They should be kept at distance. Treat them like your own parents but accept no
interference even if with well intentions. Remember that adage? "Too many cooks spoil the broth" . This especially holds true when too many people get involved in couples lives.


3. Whether the wife's parents get as much right as the man's parents?
What rights are we talking about? Man's parents go to jail if there is marital discord, do you want wife's parents to enjoy same benefits?


4. Will the man be willing to adopt his wife's surname?

Sure Man should, provided he becomes equal owner to wife's and her parent's property. Wife, by taking husbands surname is entitled to equal (maybe more) share in husband's and her in-laws property. Seems a great bargain, as some great philosopher once said " What is in the name". isn't it?


5. Will the man be willing to be a househusband and let the wife be the breadwinner and wear the pants at home?

Of-course man should be willing to be househusband, provided girl and her parents change their attitude. I never came across any girl or her parents who search for a jobless or no-asset groom. Try some matrimonial sites or check with marriage bureau.
Also later if there is marital dispute men should be assured to receive maintenance/alimony and custody of his kids, should he choose to be househusband.
Why does women need to wear pants in house? We men prefer skirts instead. You know it is easy, air conditioned and all that.
Lady instead of asking these stupid questions and blaming Men for all this, either fight
with god to have you changed to man or feel comfortable and celebrate your womenhood. Remember all these men discussing here didn't fall from skies. They have mother who incidentally is women.. Tell God to give man boobs, so we stay home and feed milk to kids. I wouldn't be surprised if females like you tomorrow question why poor Cows are milked and why not Oxen's. Remember God has made every species for a purpose and duty, no matter how hard you try Oxen will never produce milk, man can never get pregnant and nurse babies. Instead of feeling great and blessed for what you have, I see confused women like you in constant predicament and blame man for everything.